@pmzzo
I agree with you however some people doesn’t like it when they say they’re asexual and people just assume they’d never have sex, it bothers them. they wanna make it clear that it doesn’t necessarily mean that they would never have sex. whereas I have the same problem, I wanna make it clear that I don’t wanna have sex, ever. so yes, line is unclear for some but for some of us it actually is pretty clear.
(reblogging this because I can’t figure out how to reblog any of the posts further on in the discussion, aaaaugh tumblr)
I don’t think “repulsed” and “indifferent” can be taken to be equal to “don’t want to have sex ever”/”willing to have sex”. It does often divide up that way, but it doesn’t always. I’m especially worried about saying that indifferent = willing to have sex, and that you can only say you don’t ever want to have sex if you’re repulsed.
The way I know ‘indifferent’/’repulsed’ is that repulsed = you find the idea of you personally having sex disgusting or in some other way strongly negative. indifferent = you find the idea of you personally having sex neutral to mildly negative. And I really don’t want to say to people that they’re only allowed to go “no sex ever, kthnxbye” if they really, really hate the idea. It’s perfectly valid for an indifferent person to not want to have sex either. (In fact, it’s perfectly valid for an asexual who enjoys sex, a demi, a grey-a, a *sexual to never want to have sex!)
(And, of course, some repulsed people may be open to experimentation all the same.)
I sometimes feel as if there’s - ironically - pressure to have sex or be open to having sex in the asexual community, and saying that willingness/unwillingness to have sex precisely follows indifferent/repulsed lines seems to add to that to me.
