August 2011
28 posts
Pronoun question. I need your opinions.
geschlechtsumwandlungstrieb:
thetransboy:
lizardwalk:
misterstibbons:
bubonickitten:
fadesandspins:
sweetcalamity:
anythingnonbinary:
I try to refer to everybody with gender neutral pronouns because I feel it’s time the world stops seperating the world by sex/gender. Problem is I then realize if these people have requested and pointed out the gendered pronouns they prefer - I need...
Last homosexual survivor of the Holocaust dies →
qweerdo:
likespacegandalf:
qweerdo:
jamesfrancoisacunt:
waytogojeremy:
graftversushost:
ineffableshe:
philosewphy:
mentalscribble:
writingfromfactorx:
nonalina:
This is so touching. This guy seems like he was a pretty awesome dude.
But… and is it just me… or do people say a lot about the LGBT people who were oppressed during the Holocaust but not a whole lot about the...
Demisexuality: Revised Ace Prom Invite →
demisexuality:
What: Ace Prom!
When: Friday September 9th, 2011. 7PM to 11 PM US Central Time (or whenever you want/need to log off, it also doesn’t matter if you are late. We all have things we need to do, whether it’s school, a job, prior commitments, emergencies that pop up, etc.) And if you can’t make it…
Okay, so I have to ask this.
Is there a reason this is starting so late and...
Pokerf(ace): On "Prude": A Prelude →
dandelionroots:
(look I made a rhyme)
Thanks for your responses folks! I’m writing up something about my own experiences and interpretations of the word prude, which will hopefully go up tomorrow. In the meantime, I’m copy/pasting replies to here, mostly for an easier visual reference for me. If anyone wants to…
Hope you don’t mind me answering this here, because I missed your...
July 2011
36 posts
so apparently things have exploded in the ace comm and now there is talk of moving to DW??
points:
- I don’t think anyone will mind if people take over asexuality (the DW comm) because that’s dead
- have invite codes if ppl need them
- am kaz on DW feel free to add will reciprocate
points 2 and 3 will however have to wait 10 days or so till I am back from holiday as my only...
jmepie:
okay, someone needs to link me to places where Dan Savage is being a douchenozzle because I know very, very, VERY little about him, have never read anything he’s written, and I think I may have watched ten seconds of a video with him in it.. I can’t really remember.. but, anyway, yeah. Everyone’s talking about him so EDUCATE ME PLS.
Greg told me to tag this with “asexual” cos you all...
Non-Sexysexual Privilege Checklist
heartinakiln:
- I am not viewed as slutty or ‘loose’ for my sexual behavior.
- My sexual behavior is not immediately associated with hedonism, free love, etc.
- My sexual identity does not lead people to believe that I am joking or making things up.
- There has been a large body of creditable research/tumblr blogging done regarding my sexual identity.
- If I choose to date, it is hard to...
4 tags
nonbinary and/or genderqueer and/or ...?
I have made the radical realisation just now that actually? I am not comfortable identifying solely as nonbinary or genderqueer.
Which still doesn’t mean I’m binary, I note. Still not a woman and not a man.
But the thing is… I think a lot of people, when they hear “nonbinary/genderqueer”, think of someone at least somewhat male. Maybe because their default idea of...
Random Thought:
trisarahtopsasaurus:
Why does so much of our information talk about “self-identifying” as asexual?
Doesn’t anyone with a label self-identify with that label?
If you’re a lesbian, you are self-identifying as such.
If you’re a vegetarian, you are self-identifying as such.
If you are Christian, you are self-identifying as such.
Am I just tired and need to go to bed or am I on to something?
...
No, I am not the schrodinger's cat of sexuality.
misterstibbons:
bubonickitten:
polisci-prelaw:
acentric:
One of the most common things I run into when people find out that I am asexual is a comment along the lines of:
So, you could technically be straight / gay / bi / attracted to animals
No.
Some people like to think of asexuality as the schrodinger’s cat of orientations. These people would be wrong. You are making the assumption...
Our trolls suck! "Most of them are teens and young...
dreadfulsweet:
David Jay is 29 (if you wanna make a bet that he’ll completely renounce asexuality in less than a year, I doubt you’d win). Swankivy (youtube) is 33. There’s a whole section on AVEN for older aces. Just looking quickly at the ages of some AVEN members, I found: 41, 46, 60, 58, 58, 52, 49, 61….. But let’s ignore facts, shall we?
And I thought I was immune to the...
Cultural differences and reactions to asexuality.
hidingincanada:
captainheartless:
Hi-C Educates the Masses: Why I have problems with the idea of sexual privilege.
I’m also cautious about saying that people are encouraged to be asexual. In a lot of these cases (admittedly, I’m used to the examples of gay and lesbian people, so I don’t want to suggest that this will actually apply to your experience), usually people aren’t really expected to...
I'm fucking sick and tired of other people telling...
polisci-prelaw:
No, I am not straight.
No, I am not heteroromantic.
Get the fuck over yourself. Don’t claim to know anything about me. And don’t you dare try to lock me out of community-supporting because you think you’re a better judge of who I am than me.
Fucking hell.
I said at one point I was heteroromantic? Well, I’m not. Your argument is invalid.
I post a lot of pictures of really...
misterstibbons:
seawitchery replied to your post: pianycist replied to your post: Whenever I read or…
Is it just the way it’s handled in the story? Or are you uncomfortable with characters/people who identify as cross-dressers-but-still-their-assigned-sex?
Just how it’s handled, I think.
In a lot of narratives centered around cross-dressing, at or near the end there’s a big reveal, showing...
4 tags
"Scientifically prove that asexuality exists..."
and why this does not lead to productive dialogue. (I’m bouncing off polisci-prelaw’s recent post and some of the arguments we were having re: educating as well as some of the recent trolls in the asexual tag.)
Lately, I’ve seen some people go “okay, you say you’re asexual? I want to see scientific evidence that asexuality is real before I believe you.” And...
raumlet:
heartinakiln
straight means that you are not interesed in people of the same gender in any manner
wait so wait
wait this means that AROMANTIC ASEXUALS ARE STRAIGHT TOO GUYS
OH MY GOD I have learned so much about myself! I was straight all along and just NEVER KNEW~
(bold is mine, italics are not)
I might actually be straight then since I don’t think I’ve ever met...
6 tags
Kaz's identity spectrum →
So on the #genderqueer tag on Tumblr I’ve been seeing this identity spectrum picture going around and thought I’d try filling it out! So, let’s see…
[image description: at the top, there is a transgender logo and text saying “This graph is a fun exercise to help one understand that Sex, Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Sexual Orientation does not have to be...
zucchini recipes?
logopraxis:
So, here’s what I’d like to know:
Is there anyone out there who actually has a zucchini, or a queerplatonic life partner, or a Boston marriage, or anything even remotely resembling any of the above? If so, I would really love to hear as much as you are comfortable telling about how exactly this wondrous thing came about. Alternatively! Have you ever made a concrete effort to...
WringfromfactorX has thoughts on "zucchini" →
sir-kit:
Just so you folks know, this is a marvelous post. Because it discusses the words that I desperately wished exist but don’t, with bonus language geekery.
Also it made me happy.
Reblogging because Sci is awesome (and my zucchini!
3 tags
30 Day Asexuality Challenge - Day 10
What have other people said about your asexuality?
Just so you all know? This one is going to be depressing.
IIRC, my mother said I shouldn’t limit myself by assuming nothing would happen in the future.
My flatmate asked me if I was sure I wasn’t a lesbian. In fact, multiple people asked this - I remember at one point complaining on AVEN about how *everyone* I had tried to come...
