February 2012
16 posts
Unpopular Opinion:
lizziegoneastray:
I think cumberbuttmunch is hilarious, and also totally has a point about Benedict Cumberbatch’s chin(s)…
Yeah, it’s - why do they have to clutter up the ace tags? I don’t find it funny, the userpic makes me cringe, and I don’t want to stumble across them when I want to read ace stuff. I originally blocked them and went on with my life, but for some reason...
Neutrois Nonsense: Male as "neutral" →
neutrois:
In reply to this post, Kaz said something very interesting:
I also often feel as if male is seen as a “neutral” gender - e.g. that a neutrois person who wants to be seen as a guy and prefers “he” over “she” is normal, but one who’d rather be seen as female/prefers “she” gets viewed as not…
I’m glad you thought that was interesting enough to discuss! :)
Honestly,...
THE FULL METAL BITCH: Dear Aspies Who Want To Keep... →
thefullmetalbitch:
I cannot stand your position on this, and I’m going to lay it out by rebutting the often-heard arguments, and then by stating what I believe this will do for the autistic communities.
1. But it’s not as accurate.
-The current categories of autism are artificial; they were not allowed to…
This, very much. Getting diagnosed for AS made me realise how very political...
Legit questions, do not spam the fuck out of me...
sun-sica:
Okay, so when I go into the asexual tag, I often see long posts where an asexual will explain that they don’t desire sex, but if they love so-and-so, they will compromise and have sex with them. I also see posts where people express extreme revulsion at anything involving sex. So here are my questions. The last one is less specific than the others. I’d appreciate people responding with...
allies-person:
deaf-aspie:
Being overwhelmed by your environment does not make you a baby. Having a food aversion does not make you a baby. Having a public “meltdown,” however, suggests a lack of mature coping skills and room for learning. Continuing to “instantly throw up” when exposed to a long list of common foods instead of taking on the project of desensitization suggests an attitude of...
sophia-sol:
Just to reiterate: you can be sex-aversive AND sex-positive. Really. lucyzephyr:
sophia-sol:
lizziegoneastray:
Why is this? Because sex-positivity is not intended to be about personally wanting to have sex; it’s about supporting the right of all people of all genders to have as much or as little sex as they want without being judged by arbitrary standards of “purity” or...
Perpetually Myself: What is ableist discourse... →
allies-person:
The Feministe Comments policy contains this clause:
We will do what is possible to prevent publishing comments that are racist, sexist, ableist, homophobic, or transphobic. (Italics in original)
I’m hardly the first to point out that this often does not happen. (Moreover, sometimes the…
I saw how the comments started and then bailed. I am sadly unsurprised they just...
Asexual People of Color: Welcome, y'all! →
asexualpocsunite:
Hi there! I’m your main mod fivelettered here. Thanks for following us!
I made this tumblr after I decided to fully embrace the idea of being a grey-a/demisexual (something I’ve thought I was for a year or so) and going on AVEN. When I finished making my account, I realized that most of these…
Signal boosting because omg awesome.
9 tags
Realisation of the day:
I do not have the slightest idea what a “whimper” actually sounds like.
Thought accompanying: being an autistic writer is really weird in many ways.
The thing is, I not only learned to write by reading tons but also learned a lot of my vocabulary from books (combination of being a bookworm as a kid and not being a native English speaker/never speaking English at home even when we...
Asexuality Archive →
neutrois:
AMAZING.
FINALLY I can link people to something other than the AVEN wiki.
spiralfish:
“The distinction between sexual and asexual people is that, if asexuals think about other people during masturbation (many asexuals don’t think about anything specifically sexual) it is only as fantasy. If they actually were given the opportunity to be sexual with that person there would be no attraction, or the drive would be so low as to be completely ignorable.” — AVEN {the...
youneedacat:
“If you do not find work in one of your areas of obsession, you will probably be distracted, bored, depressed; you may even find you become physically sick. ” — Rudy Simone, Aspergirls
That’s never been me. The longest I ever worked was doing stuff, paid minimum wage, at the residential facility I was in as a teen. It involved painting walls and fences, shoveling large...
When people say the AVEN triangle is really not...
hope-for-a-better-asexual-future:
…then could someone explain this?
[Image: AVEN triangle with text description underneath: “The AVEN triangle representing asexuality, based on the gay pride pink triangle.”]
Like is it a mistake? Does it need to be edited? Or do we just need to accept that some Aces back in the day take some inspiration from the gay pride triangle ? :unsure:
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Possibly a douchefuck: Can we all take a minute to... →
possiblyadouchefuck:
Allosexual being the opposite of autosexual; thus allosexual being “one who is sexually attracted to people other than/as well as oneself”. (Autosexual being “one who is sexually attracted to onesself”, which in most contexts means “someone who has the desire to masturbate but does not have any…
I knew there was something that bothered me about the term...
Obsession is a dangerous thing: Small PSA on the... →
rimbaum:
Sex aversion is a thing that exists.
You can be a sex aversive asexual or a sex aversive sexual. It doesn’t matter. If you think that the act of sex is nasty, gross, panic inducing, painful, or whatever - and would be happier if you never got involved in a sexual relationship with anyone, ever -…
So is “sex-aversive” the term that’s taken the place of...
Just to reiterate: you can be sex-aversive AND...
lizziegoneastray:
Why is this? Because sex-positivity is not intended to be about personally wanting to have sex; it’s about supporting the right of all people of all genders to have as much or as little sex as they want without being judged by arbitrary standards of “purity” or “experience.” It’s about believing that other people’s bodies, and the ways in which they do or do not choose to...
